Grief: Learning to Let Go and Surrendering to the Present with Your Mind, Body, and Soul
The collective theme of January, and really for the past two years since Covid, is grief. Grief for the people we lost or fear losing. Grief for the uncertainty of the unknown each new year brings. Grief of loss of our future potential due to a loss of a job, a person we loved, or a certain way of life. Grief of our past, what we’ve lost, including our past selves we’ve left behind.
Loss of Way of Life
Prior to Covid, we lived a certain way and our future was somewhat predictable (or we thought it was), but for the past two years our reality has been flipped upside down. Society has shifted and is continuing to shift. The way we work and interact with people has changed. We’ve lost connection along the way. The road can be extremely lonely for many. Of course, there are positives from the shift but here I’m focusing on grief that tends to be avoided.
One of the heaviest emotions is grief. It lingers and stays in the body. It’s reflected in our eyes and in the tones of our voice. It must be channeled in some way out of ourselves for it’s way too heavy to carry and internalize. Grief is like a raging river the eventually leads to a massive waterfall. To go with the flow requires us to surrender with deep trust to the unknown, not knowing when a waterfall awaits us or the river starts to be calm. We have to surrender and simply let our emotions flow.
Loss of Potential
See the world is our mirror. So when we lose something, or someone, or even our own expectations, we lose a piece of ourselves, we lose our future potential with that someone or something – and our timeline shifts in a different direction. Each person plays an irreplaceable role in the cosmic blueprint and once that person is gone, we lose a big part of ourselves that we can’t get back, at least not in this reality.
Grief, like any other feeling yearns to be witnessed. Whether that’s through you or with the help of another person. It wants to be seen and witnessed in order to be released. But our lives are too busy to witness our feelings so we go on feeling numb and avoiding heaviness. Unless processed, we run the risk of projecting these feelings on to others unconsciously or consciously – hurting ourselves and the people on our path.
The Way Through
Some ways to process these heavy emotions are talking it through with someone. We all experience grief differently but talking to someone with an empathic ear is sure to provide some kind of a release. Another way is to journal your grief and fears. Pour your heart out. Write it down. We access a part of our hidden selves and our higher selves through our writing. So use your voice and express yourself through writing, speaking, art, music and whatever makes your soul sing.
We are constantly shifting our realities but feeling it on a massive scale like what we have witnessed for the past two years, it’s definitely making an imprint on our mental and emotional health. Like the saying goes, the only way out is through. Acknowledging that life, indeed, sucks sometimes and it isn’t fair. Screaming at the top of your lungs into a pillow is the way through for some while crying your heart out is the way for others. Many souls. Many paths. Tune in to your heart to listen to the best way to release your grief.
E-motion is an energy in motion. Let the river run through. Let it flow. Feel what needs to be felt. Acknowledge your heart and the pain it feels. Don’t run away from it. Don’t rationalize it. Your feelings are valid regardless of how deep, intense or heavy they are.
What’s on your mind right now? Tune into your thoughts.
What’s your heart feeling? Tune into your body. How does your body feel? Place your right hand on your heart and tune in.
How is your spirit doing? Tune into your soul. Journal. Write. Speak. Channel into your soul, your higher self through art, music, dance or a walk in nature.
Be kind to yourself. We are all conditioned in one way of another. Our open energy centers in Human Design show us the way to be kind and compassionate to ourselves and others. They are potential for wisdom. All types require rest, even generators like myself. Tune into your strategy and authority to get back in alignment.
Strength in Kindness
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